David and Michelle

Start with Wholeness

David

Our world is changing — people are changing. How we do things is changing; how you do things is changing. “Try” is becoming a thing of the past. Your priorities are changing, your goals are changing, your definitions of success are changing, what you think is important or significant or worth doing is changing, the way you look at life — your life in particular — is changing. What are you here to do? What accomplishments will make you feel good about yourself— deep in your heart when you’re alone and away from everyone?

You know you’re going to change, you know you want to; to become something of value to yourself and others, those you care about, and ideally, as a citizen of this world. Not city, state, or country, but a powerful proponent of life on a unified earth — one where everyone is of value and appreciated for who they are.

So, in that light, we offer you healing and information, encouragement and support. The information, healing/ shifting tools, and the transformative techniques both Michelle and David give you will change your life in the direction you want. There are healing/clearing/ quantum energy encoded in these pages or audio file you will find useful, delightful, helpful, and (we hope) fun.

We are here to enjoy. Let’s create a life you are proud of and enjoy, a life as a shining example of what is possible with good intentions and the right connections.

What’s the “right connections”? It’s you, connecting to the truth and wholeness of you, within yourself, from the surface level of what food you like, to the deeper levels within your own soul. Connect to you and you’ll do fine.

So, with that in mind…

Here we go:

Session 1

The Seven Categories

Michelle:


This is very exciting, talking about how to create a great life. I have seven “categories” and yours may be different; there are a core group and then the things they lead to or intertwine with. I’ll tell you mine and you can tell me if they’re the same as yours. First, we have to talk about faith and the power of faith to manifest and create. I believe it is the number one skill to create a great life. We’ll also talk about love, I wore my, “This is love” sweater in honor of what we’re talking about. Next is wealth, whatever that means to people: abundance, riches, having what you feel you need. Health is the last of the main four, and we mean physical and emotional health.

Once we grasp those four main things, I love to see people realize they have a contribution. It’s so important for people to see beyond themselves and realize that we're part of a greater whole, and that we've got to contribute to the whole. That’s followed by growth, because we want to continue to grow through our lifetime. The last one is what I call and ultimately believe is purpose, but another way to phrase it is beingness. Who are you being, who are you showing up as? If you have a purpose, you're being driven by that, but who are you being in relation to that purpose? It isn’t just what the purpose accomplishes but is how we’re showing up, how we’re handling things.


The Four Vedic Goals


David:


Those are perfect. In the oldest tradition known, the Vedic tradition in India, there are four goals in life. Moksha, which is spiritual liberation. Dharma is purpose and purpose on many levels, which includes what you just said about how we show up; it isn’t just fulfilling our purpose, but how we do it. Kama is love, and Artha is wealth. In a Vedic society, if you achieve those four things, you probably already have health; health in Ayurveda includes most of those.

I love that you mentioned faith, it’s an element of all of them. Faith and belief are the same but different. It’s sometimes said that the huge accomplishments by the great saints and rishis (seers) and all the great people throughout time have been because of their faith, their trust. Trust because of their connection with their Source, whether that is unbounded awareness, pure consciousness, God or the Divine, Truth, or whatever it is, and their relationship to the universe: there was nothing that could stop what they were doing from happening.

It’s also said that to live the highest level of consciousness, Unity or Brahman Consciousness, which is living in such an abstract field, one needs faith in order to stay in form. Because of that faith is a huge one. Trust, belief, we can lump all those together because I think they're crucial to our moving forward and as we talk we can address where we see things differently. When you talk about belief, what do you mean? What are you thinking about?

Belief vs. Faith

Michelle:


Belief and faith are similar, but I believe faith is its own category. I think a lot of people can believe a lot about both the positive and then the negative, if you will. There can be the belief that people are great, but also that life is hard; people can genuinely believe both those things based on what they see in any given moment and as a result, make both of those things true in their lives.

Michelle’s Definition of Faith

My definition of faith is that it's a mindset, a mental attitude so conceived of its own idea that it can see the future regardless of what is in the moment. The faith is so deep that there is no questioning or doubting, no room for fear. It’s like being so locked on to that future moment that we literally bring it into this present moment, and hold it from such knowingness that there's no doubt about it.

At that level of faith, we can come up with many things to have faith about. A great example is wanting to conceive a baby. A woman may not yet have a baby, but she knows so deeply that she is going to; she feels it, hears it, tastes it, smells it, and takes the actions that are moving her closer to having that come into her world. There’s no question, even if she’s had multiple miscarriages or if there are other challenges with getting pregnant. The outer world circumstances don’t deter her from knowing that will happen, and when you think that strong, the miracles happen.


Faith is Knowingness


When we talk about faith, the outer world or what we might think of as visible circumstances don't deter us from that knowingness. Even if different scenarios have shown up that look like problems or challenges, in that example she’s had trouble conceiving or had a miscarriage or two, she is able to say and think and feel that it is happening. It’s that mindset that say, “I know it's been granted. I know that it will be given to me.” It’s the feeling that you know that you know that you know; and it is literally the law of the universe that the universe will pick up on that solidness, that knowingness, and guide you to take the actions to make it happen, to allow it to happen. Faith is resting in that.


Relax!
I think a lot of people don't know how to relax into what it is that they really want. They don't have that full faith. Maybe they have a little part of them knows or would like it to happen, but they live in split energy. Faith is one directional, it is all in, it is you know that you know that you know. I like to phrase it, that you can touch the future. It's that solid, that you can touch it.


Head or Heart?


David:


That's perfect. I really liked what you said and I'm on board 100% when I say there is a slight distinction between belief and faith. On one level, people may feel that there is belief and that faith is then a more cultured or more deeply developed belief. But here's the thing, belief can be in the head and faith is in the heart.

The head has no way to understand faith because just as you said, it's at such a deep, profound, intimate level to who we are and true faith is unshakable. It's not based on a belief. It's based on that word you used: knowingness, truth. It's knowing so profoundly in the depth of your soul that this is true, and it's true regardless of external circumstances. It has nothing to do with the decision to believe it, we don't decide that we're going to have faith. We just know something.

How Do You know?

Michelle:


The question this brings up for most people is how do you know? I believe how someone knows is a matter of head and heart alignment. Your mind is your five senses. We see, we hear, we feel, we taste, we smell. When all those senses are in alignment, you've touched that future, you've remembered a future, you've seen a vision of that future, even if it doesn't match up to your current circumstances. I've found in my own world that’s how I know. I'll meditate, allow myself to get out of my current circumstances and my language would be to allow God's Will for my life. What am I being directed to? I get a vision, a sense of that.

A lot of times, as I relax into that, I do get a vision of it. I see it and hear it and feel it, sometimes even taste and smell it because it honestly gets that clear. It's this “Ah, okay” moment. That's how I know that I know that I know. So I do agree you know it more in your heart, but I would still call it a head/heart alignment. What the head is experiencing is the future, remembering that future, and then it translates to the heart feeling it and knowing that the outer world, the current scenario, is temporary, because my heart feels what my head knows.


The Senses of Alignment


David:


I love that you picked up on alignment, and the different senses and different aspects of it. In the Vedic tradition, there are eight prakritis which are aspects of nature, how creation comes to be. One variation is that on the first day God created this, on the second day God created that, in sequence. According to the ancient Vedic science text, unboundedness, the unified field of all the laws of nature, pure consciousness, whatever that is, reverberates within itself and the Creator emerges. The process, the sequence, is through these eight prakritis, which leads to the five senses which you just mentioned. Hearing, touch, sight, taste and smell. Those are the first five. And then mind, intellect and ego make up the eight.

Feelings
Feelings, which we would call the heart, is a subtle aspect of intellect, so that's in there as well. That means that when we talk about alignment, we're talking about alignment of the five senses plus the mind and the heart. We're going to add that it's the five senses, the mind, the intellect, the ego, and then all the way down to unboundedness. When you can touch that level, that's where you get the ability to connect to all time, past, present and future, because that area is timeless itself.


Dipping the Toe
When we have that deep and intimate knowing, it’s because we’ve dipped into that alignment whether we did it intentionally or not. We could be crossing the street, or we could be in a deep state of meditation or prayer, but somehow suddenly just something clicks. That’s when we have that feeling of knowing something deeply, and all the ducks get in their rows, and then we have this vision of totality of some aspect of our life that we suddenly know with absolute certainty.

“I’m going!”
Back in 1973, I wanted to go to Maharishi International University, which didn't exist at the time. I wrote all these letters to every address I could find saying, "Tell me about it." One day I got this thing in the mail, they didn't have a catalog back then, but I got this maybe five-page letter in the mail. As soon as I got it, I opened it, I read the first page, and I knew with absolute certainty I was going. It was in California, I was in Massachusetts, I was broke. I had no idea how it was going to happen; I just knew I was going. So much so that a few months later when I was filling out the final application, which included the financial aspects of it, I remember taking this big envelope and walking up to those big blue mailboxes and putting it in. As I slid the envelope into the mailbox, I said “I’m going, it’s up to You now”, and walked away. 


No Doubt

It was that absolute certainty that we’ve been talking about, no doubt involved. Doubts come from the mind, and the heart doesn't know how to doubt. When we can be in this alignment, the power of the heart and the power of who we are at our deepest level, and when we're so aligned that we get all the way down to unboundedness, we're in alignment with complete creation because that's the source of everything. And then that knowingness, that faith, is unshakable and unchanged by what anyone tells us.


Meet the Pea Brain


Michelle:


Absolutely, I agree a million percent! I have said that the whole world can tell me I'm wrong, and that's fine. I know that I know that I know this, whatever this is at the time. It becomes timeless. You talked about being in the moment whatever that moment is, that you’re supposed to be in. Meditation is a great way to get there, and I do that daily because I want to experience and relax into that pure awareness, open my little pea brain. I say that lovingly, my “little pea brain”: It's my world, my creation. When we can get out of that, we're mind, body, spirit. I call that the God Source Energy. That is when we know our past, we know our present, we know our future. That is the pure awareness, not from an emotionally charged place, but just knowing what is.


The Moment You’re In is The Moment You’re Meant to be in.
 You mentioned crossing the street, being present in that moment crossing the street with a heightened sense and pure awareness. I've done that when traveling to a new country, being aware of all the senses and taking it all in. There's this timeless energy that shows up as well, and if we get out of our blinders and as I called it our pea brains, we realize we know more than we thought we did. Somehow even in a place we haven’t been, we know which road to go down and where we're going to get led and where we're going to be guided. Senses of, “Oh right, I'm meant to do this.” You know that you know that you know, and I sense it’s because you've seen a glimpse of it and it's resonated. Just like as you said, you read one page of the letter about the school and it resonated with all of you; there was no inner conflict and you just knew.


Yes, You CAN Have Superpowers


David:


This happens all the time, people suddenly feel those urgings to do this, turn on that street, talk to this person, get that book. People have little glimpses all the time, and the reason that people have little glimpses is because it's true. It's real.

 Patanjali's Yoga Sūtras, which is where yoga comes from, talks about this. The third chapter is Sidhis, it’s usually translated as “superpowers”. Basically, it's what we traditionally think of as extraordinary gifts or potential and Patanjali says it’s for everyone, here's how you get it. The very first one is the ability to know the past, present, and future and it’s the easiest one to get. When everything lines up and we just touch that aspect of the deepest resonance of ourselves in the moment, we realize that there's something greater than me experiencing this, but it is me only bigger than I think it is. When we touch that, we have access to past, present, and future and then resonance is easy. What around me supports who I want to be? What around me detracts from what I want to be? And then we navigate through the streets of the new city, through the grocery store, through the whatever.


Back to That Pea Brain


The small self is what you call the pea brain. Sometimes we get caught up in it and we don't allow ourselves to see beyond it, but one of the ways that we do is through the senses. Let’s say we go to the grocery store, and we know we want to eat well, and to be healthy and then we walk by the cookie section and begin this little internal argument. The best-case scenario is can I get away with it now? And the worst-case scenario is saying, “I don't care, I'm having it.” That’s where we have that combination of intellect and intuition or guidance because we've been told certain things. We've been told, "Oh you need to be gluten free. Sugar free. Non-GMO." Whatever it is, whatever we’ve been told shows up in our senses, in what we want. I saw a video recently about why people don't know what to eat. The video goes through the last 50 years with a few items, and when they tell you to eat it. So 50 years ago, “yes, eat it, it’s good for you”. Five years later, science says don't eat it and then two years later they tell you again to eat it. And it just goes back and forth so that we don't know anymore. I remember walking with a friend of mine in eighth grade and he was talking about some research that somebody came up and he said, "You know, someday somebody's going to come out with a report that tells us that milk is bad for us." And it happened.


Six Systems of Analyzation


There is all this information that comes. The Yoga Sutras is one of six systems of Indian philosophy, and each of these systems say that when you take anything, and you analyze it through all six systems, you find out the eternal truth of an item or a situation or a thing. It walks you through all these different angles that are very intricate and detailed and develop our ability to truly see things for what they are. Realistically, we don't have time to do that with everything which is why we want to develop that intuition, that connection that allows faith to dominate, that allows that knowingness that is not based on intellect. It's based on something deep and more profound.


Universal Truths


Michelle:


I catch these things, that intuitiveness that leads to faith. This is how I think about something that is a universal truth, something that hasn't changed through time, something that applies to each of us the same despite our individuality: it has to apply the same to you as it does to me. Money is a great example: some of my clients think money is hard to make. In somebody's world, in their little pea brain, they maybe have linked that to truth. But it's not a universal truth, because if money's not hard for me to make, and it's not hard for a lot of people, then it's not a universal truth. Being aware of that allows you to know when you're creating that, setting that up. That’s one of those things that can be helped with healing and clearing techniques; I love to move beyond that because that's just in their own little pea brain and not a truth they have to live by.


We’re Wired to Feel Good!


It's not the way it was set up. It's not the way, if you will, that God intended it. I've been a coach nearly 20 years, and I have to remind people that we're not wired to feel bad. No one has ever come to me and said, "Michelle help me to be stressed, helped me to be overwhelmed, help me to not live in abundance.” No one! We're meant to be happy, healthy, alive, vibrant. We're wired for that. So, if we're doing things that are shrinking our energy and causing us to go dark, that's another way that we know it's not truth. It's not universal and it doesn't feel good, it shrinks us down. When we experience that we are coming from that smaller self and not experiencing truth.

Belief Does Not Equal Truth


David:


Right, this is the difference that we were talking about between belief and faith. We can believe money is hard to come by, or we can't get healthy, or life sucks or whatever it is. We can believe that and then because we believe it, we create it. But our beliefs are based on things we’ve been told or taught, and sometimes things we’ve misunderstood. As kid, we all misunderstood things or absorbed things that weren’t true and we have to remember that believing something doesn’t make it truth.

So many people have beliefs that came from an off day, someone said something to them in elementary school and it cut like a knife, and then it was dwelled upon and came to be believed. Believing it doesn’t make it true, because it’s a belief based on something that is false, but believing it can then bring it into being. That’s why we want to be clearing these false beliefs, because the universal truth is that when the Creator created creation, God or Divine Mother, there's an abundance of everything.


Be A Fish


No fish gets up in the morning and says, "I wonder if there will be food, what should I do?" They don’t put their little hardhat on, and grab their little lunch box, and say, “I'll go to work so I can earn some money so I can buy some food so I can eat.” No animal or tree, no angel in heaven, no amoebas, no being worries that way aside from people.

Michelle:
If we didn't worry about it, that would be provided for us as well.



Misinformation, Misbelief

David:


Exactly. Because the universal truth is we are provided for, the only exceptions are when the beliefs we have taken on conflict with that. Those beliefs aren’t related to faith or alignment, they’re misinformation that contradict those things. Again, that’s why we want to clear them.

First Healing/ Clearing Technique

So we have techniques, tools, clearings/ healings, whatever you want to call them. When we talk about these techniques, prayers, meditations we want to get maximum effect. Here’s one you can start with. We do this and many of them in silence, within ourselves.

Let’s start with silent ones you can do while you're meditating or laying down at night. It starts with calling on the name of the Divine that warms your heart in that moment, which means it could change. One day it might be “Divine Mother”, “Dear God”, or a name from any of all the different traditions, like “Mohammad”, “Lord Christ” or “Jesus”. It could be “Beloved”, “Dear One”. It could be just “One”, “Mother”, “Father”, “Ma”. We don't want to get into a habit of using the same name every time. We want to feel in our heart in that moment that connection to that greater heart and intelligence that cares for us infinitely and provides for us.


Unblock Yourself


Next, we ask for what we want. In this case we would say, "Don't let me be the block to my good. I want to receive everything that you wish me to receive. I'm asking that you help me release any beliefs or patterns or whatever it is within me or around me that is preventing me from receiving Thy abundance." And then we end with, "Thank you God. And so it is."

This is just one of many, we'll give out some more as we go on, but this is a particularly good one for a universal belief like we were talking about with money. I can look around and see that it isn’t hard for everyone to come by money, and if I believe that getting money is difficult and am creating and experiencing that — and I want that to stop — it's something that within me that needs to shift.

Neither you or I believe that you need a jack hammer and chisel and open-heart surgery to clear or fix these beliefs; we believe there are very simple techniques and tools that people can use to clear the obstacles within themselves to help them go from that small pea brain to the more unbounded aspect of who they are and become open to receive the abundance that's naturally around them. Instead of walking around with blinders on, take the blinders off and see what has always been there.

Check Your Software


Michelle:


Absolutely. The hope is for people to know that the sun is always shining. It may look like a really dark and cloudy day, but it’s only because of living under those clouds. If people believe money is hard to make or life is hard, those generalizations we’re referring to, those are not a universal truth for everyone. Here's the other little deciding factor: if it shrinks you down, if it darkens you, if it makes you feel less, then that is your red flag to say, "Oh, wait a second, I'm somehow doing this. This isn't my natural state." Computers are a good analogy: your hardware is perfect, but you have contaminated software. Our big objective here is to help people heal the viruses in their own software and be able to open up into the divine being, who you really are, that higher self, that truth of who we all are.



From Dark to Light

The more we do that, the more we notice it in how we feel. You will feel genuinely happier, you will allow yourself to open up and see the beauty and the goodness and the magic, the miracles. If we refer back to money as the example, it’s noticing the shift from feeling that money is difficult or maybe for some impossible to make to realizing there are a lot of people willing to help you heal from those dark energies or misunderstood beliefs and change the quality of your life. In those dark energies it may truly feel you never have enough money, feel close to impossible to change that. But as you shift, as you move beyond the clouds and begin to know that the sun is shining, then you realize abundance is everywhere.

I didn't come from money. At all. I mean, electricity was being turned off and I remember cars being parked in the driveway for weeks at a time because there was no money for gas. As a child, I took on a lot of those beliefs that money was hard to come by and struggled for a long time. I used to work three jobs and feel like, “God, no matter how much I work, I never have the money to do what I want to do.” I didn't understand it was all these dark clouds and inner conflicts with universal truths about money that created that.


Everything is Heal-able


As I healed from that, I asked to have the blocks removed and to only have the abundance inside of me, the wealth and the prosperity and the riches. As I kept opening up to it, making money became a lot easier and now I probably make 10 times more than I would have ever dreamed humanly possible back then. When we become open, there really are no limits. I want people to really get that it doesn't matter where you started or where you are currently; it is very, very healable. Whatever you have going on inside of you is very healable and we want to give you clear strategies that open you up to live back to the way that you were designed to.


Do The Contrary Thing


David:


I like what you said about feeling like we get smaller, feel that we're shrinking. I want to add something, because maybe you can't quite tell that you’re shrinking. Maybe that's a little too subtle. Sometimes we feel different but don’t identify it quickly. So listen to yourself, what you’re thinking, and notice how you're standing, how you're speaking. Are you speaking clearly or are you mumbling? Are your shoulders getting hunched over? Are you starting to look down? Just look in the mirror, look and see how your body physically responds when something is having an influence that is weakening you.

When we notice that, all we have to do is the opposite, the contrary thing. Do the thing that empowers you in that moment, which if we do it right, always comes from love. God loves you, the Divine loves you. We're not looking to attack anybody; we are simply looking to own who we are, stand up for who we are, and then allow what comes of that. And who we are is all possibilities, unbounded.

Another Technique

Something else I do that you can do is I just in that meditative/ prayer state, call on the Divine as above and say, “I open all doors, windows, cracks, crevices, pinholes, everything around me to abundance and prosperity. I open to the abundance and prosperity that surrounds me. I receive it now. Thank you God. And so it is.” We just start that with the same thing, calling upon the divine. I become open to what's all around me.


There’s Plenty of Money to Go Around


There is plenty of money in the world and if there isn't, you know where money comes from, right? We literally make it up. You must know this, how more money gets created in the United States. I don't know about other countries, but we have the Federal Reserve Bank, which is not a bank at all. It's a private corporation with, near as I can tell, seven or 11 people at the top of it. And they sit around, and they look at what's going on in the economy, and they take advice from whoever they take advice from, and then they say, "Well, let's put another billion dollars in the economy." And then there's another billion dollars in the economy. The small group of people that could fit in the room that you're in right now just created a billion dollars in the world.



The Level You Want is The Level You Can Have!


So we don't have to worry that there's not enough money around. The rich can stay rich, but you can get to whatever level of financial affluence you aspire to, whatever level of health you aspire to, whatever level of love and intimacy in your life you aspire to, whatever level of alignment to your purpose, to what you want to bring to the world, to what you want as your gift to the divine is your life. Whatever you want to do, you can do regardless of where you are right now. All you have to do is have the intention, start taking some steps, and miracles will happen. I know that's your experience: that you just start, and it may feel far away but all of a sudden it's right there.


Change Your Standards…


Michelle:


It's so right there. The number one question that I've learned to ask myself is, “does this light me up?” So often in my life I bought into what I needed to do, what I should do, what I have to, what I was supposed to do. And those four words for me are what I trained my community to think of as red flag words: need to, have to, should, supposed to. We have to start looking at that because you're doing that to yourself. It didn't happen overnight, it was a gradual process, but asking, “Does this light me up? Does this expand who I am? Does this bring joy to my life?” has become my standard.

I have to tell you, when I first first did this, there were very few things in my world that were lighting me up. I knew change had to happen. Little by little, I started incorporating more things to light me up and doing more of the things that I wanted to do. Now, I can say it's all parts of my day that light me up. There are very, very, very few things left in my life that I feel like, “Oh, I just have to do this.” I've hired those things out, I have people on my team. I make sure that I stay in my joy on a consistent basis.


… Because Nobody Can Do It For You


Nobody can do that for us, we have to decide to raise our standard. Sometimes we don’t know where to start or what that looks like, but it’s as simple as looking at the things in your world that you're doing that you don't want to be doing. It’s those things that are “have to” and “need to” and “should” and “supposed to” and we must start looking beyond that. I'm here to tell you, if you don't set it up that way, you don't “have to” “need to” “should” or “supposed to” almost anything in your world. We’re in charge of what we want to create, and it creates a lot more happiness when you look forward to your days and you're doing the things that you want to do. I truthfully believe you'll move into alignment of the things that you're meant to do and become more of who you want to be.


You’re Designed To Have Joy


David:


I completely support that. In fact, one of the things that we tell people is if you are doing your purpose and you're not in joy, then you actually are not doing your purpose because joy is an intrinsic part of creation. That's why we're here. It is. I think you know that I get downloads from Divine Mother, and Guidance and all of this. I was sitting at dinner with some friends of mine several years ago and I don't remember what question came up, but Divine Mother said, "Look, here's what you need to understand about creation. The unified field of all the laws of nature, or we can call it pure consciousness or pure awareness or the absolute, whatever term we want to use, that it is unmanifest. That means nothing exists within it, it’s a pure homogeneous field of nothingness. But because all of creation, all of the trillions of or goggleplexes of colors and sounds and tastes and sites and buildings and alligators and oceans and whales and spaceships or planets or whatever we want, all of those things come out of it, then all possibilities must reside within it."

Like A Kid at Christmas
And so Divine Mother was saying, "What happens to this unboundedness? It hears a rumor that all possibilities exist within it." And it says, "Cool, let me see what that looks like." And it kind of starts getting excited like little kids do on Christmas morning and jumping up and down, and then within that the vibrations start and something happens. Then bam, out pops creation. But the very purpose of it is, “let me see the cool things that I can do”.


Nothing is Good or Bad


From our side, we pass judgment. We think Hitler is a bad thing or being on the beach is a good thing. Now, here's the thing that's been pointed out recently to me: Without condoning anything, we're saying from the side of unboundedness that when Hitler and World War II came out, all unboundedness is, “Cool. What else can I do?” Unboundedness doesn't say that's a good thing or a bad thing, all it's looking for is the joy of creation, the joy of it becoming creative. For the flower to bloom, the bud has to be destroyed and we don't ever go to that intelligence or energy that destroys the buds and say, “No, no, don't do that!” Because if it didn't do that, we wouldn't have the beautiful flower.


We have negative and positive forces and they balance themselves. The yin and yang as opposing energies or principles, or sattva, tamas, and rajas which is the creative energy, the destructive energy and the maintenance energy from the Vedic tradition. We have this concept of opposing values and it's the opposing values that let us move forward. If we want to just move forward, literally walking, there's rest and there's activity. There's stop and there's start, stop and start, stop and start. That's how progress happens. So on one hand we look and we say, "O-oh, this was a horrible thing to happen." But from the unboundedness side, it says, “That's cool. That's what I can do. Let me see the opposite. What else can I do?”

“Good” Can Come From “Bad”

As a practical point, the technologies that you and I are using right this minute, so many things that contribute to our wonderful quality of life here in America and in many parts of the world, are a direct result of World War II. It was during World War II that entire countries reached a higher level of being able to create a lot of things at a low cost because the whole country, in this case the United States, and I'm sure other countries as well, were geared towards supporting a particular effort. As soon as they stopped needing to use that energy to create something to stop the disruptive power, that creative process kept going. Before that time, not many people had washing machines. You can see the videos of people getting big chunks of ice cubes for their refrigerator to keep food cold, which was basically like one of those picnic coolers that you carry around. Now we have easy access to automobiles, ice in our refrigerators, phones and internet devices in our hand. More technology than it took to get us to the moon is now in our hand.

All of that is a direct result of what we say was a horrible thing to happen. What we want to understand is that from the side of unboundedness and expansion of happiness, is asking “what else can I do?” “That's cool.” No judgment. “What else can I do?” “That's cool.”

That is the purpose of creation, and even if we think about it from the divine, the divine doesn't want to play alone, it says, “Let's all have fun together.” But there's the stop and the start, whether we want to call it positive or negative. If we stop passing judgment on all of the little lips in our life, and like you said, get out of this pea brain, we can find that we create many problems by passing judgment.

Labels = Resistance

Michelle:


Absolutely. We create resistance, and in the higher sense of everything, my language has become, “It just is.” It's not a good or a bad, it's not a right or wrong. It just is. It's just being. We make it good or bad, right or wrong, exactly by what you're saying: the judgments that we pass on to it. When we stop that label of “this is bad” or “this is good”, you don't give your power away to what I call the outer world and we can move through everything with ease. Outer world experiences, just are. They’re not good or bad until we put a label on it, and when we don't put that label on it as good or bad or positive or negative, we can just allow it to be, and move through the experience without all the emotional distress.

I'll give you an example. This weekend I went to a going away party because two of my dearest friends are moving out of state. In the moment, there were tears. The wife was crying, I was crying and I felt the sadness, if you will, come over me. I went to bed that night and I actually got a good night's sleep, but I when I woke up and I had that sadness I caught it and said, "This doesn't need to be sad. It just doesn't, it's just the experience. The landscape is changing a little bit, but I'm still going to remain close friends. This isn't going to change the friendship. It might look a little differently. So be it."

I got out of my little pea brain which was linking up with the sadness, saying, “Oh my God, I'm not going to see them as much. We're not going to be as close.” I had to say, "No, that's a story." And I moved beyond the story, got out of my head. I went up into the pure awareness, the pure consciousness, and I basked in that and I felt the natural energy of love and I thought, "I'm going to love like never before." It was an opportunity to love more, to love them wherever they are, to love them from another state, from a distance. And that decision to love more led to a phenomenal day and when I thought back on it, I realized it wasn’t a sad experience, it was a trigger to love more. We can do that with anything.

What Do You Want to Experience?

David:


We can, and here's the interesting thing: even the decision that sadness is a bad experience and needs to be fixed is a judgment because the truth is that being sad is just an experience, not necessarily a good or bad one. I’m not proud of this, but when I was a teenager, I was very much into thinking that we're here to suffer, because at the time that was a big thing in the world. I decided, "Well that's cool. I'm going to really enjoy my suffering." And that was my goal. I was very much into depressing books, although some of them were noble books like Lord of the Rings, but there was a book called Been Down So Long It Looks Like Up to Me. I mean, that was the type of things that were coming out at the time, and I was into them. I listened to music I truly can't listen to anymore because it’s so depressing. But back then I loved it because it took me to a very subtle experience. It was a sadness, but it was bittersweet because it also made me more aware of the love connection. I was into a very strong, powerful feeling but because I was evaluating it as a good experience, I didn't feel I needed to get out of it. I thought this is a wonderful way to feel, very loving. Sadness is about love, just as you said. If we can lean into the love aspect of it, then we can still derive some benefit from it. So what we want to look at is when we have an experience is not whether it’s good or bad, but what am I getting from it?

What Are You Co-Creating for Yourself?

That’s where we start talking about being co-creators. We’re not the creator, we didn't create this world. We certainly didn't come up with all these colors and tastes and everything. Somehow, by the grace of God or the Will of God, we show up here and then God grants us, as humans, the freedom to make choices. If we move to another country, move to another city, as so many people do these days, they're making the choice to go somewhere and in that sense, they're co-creating their environment. They say, “I'm going to go and be in this particular environment.” They could choose a different environment, but because they knowingly choose that one, they're the co-creator of what's around them.

On one level we are consciously co-creators of our environment, but on another level, we're doing that unconsciously. If we're driving to the grocery store and cut someone off because they’re in our blind spot and we didn’t see them, we don't even know this. We’ve created something unknowingly. We cut someone off and they're hostile because they're having a bad day, so their response is to not be pleasant about it. When we run into them in the grocery store, however they interact with us is our creation because we unknowingly choose to cut in front of them.


Levels of Co-Creation


As we go through our day, whether we call it karma or it is or isn’t intentional, what's going on in our life is something that we have knowingly or unknowingly created in the situations that we live. Everybody kind of gets the idea that they’re a co-creator at that level, but here's the next thing: If we talk about the experience you described about your friends moving, we have an experience and then we are in the situation. You spent time together, developed this friendship, and they made a choice to move. You weren't intentionally involved in that, but because of your relationship, this whole thing is being presented to you.

In that moment when we're having an experience, whether something like sadness or we just hit the home run, the first thing we do is we pass judgment on it. Is it good or is it bad? So first, we've co-created a situation: we developed friendship or got good at baseball. Then the friendship is challenged or the baseball is hit. We then pass judgment on the situation that we created. So now we’ve co-created our experience on two levels: 1. setting up/creating the situation and 2. passing judgement on it.

Then the next level is that we decide based on our interpretation of the experience how we're going to react or respond.

There’s a third level. Let’s go back to the person that we unknowingly cut off on the way to the grocery store, and they decide to confront us. This person also made a choice, because they could have said, "Oh wow, I guess they're in a hurry. Maybe they didn't see me." They could've just blown it off and not made it a life defining moment. When we're presented with them, we can say, "Oh my God, here, I'll pay for your groceries today." Or we could just say, "You're nuts." I mean any number of things, but either way we are co-creating again because however we react or respond, there will be a reaction or response from the environment to that. All of that creates our experience in that — and every — situation.


Who Do You Want To Be?


We co-create knowingly or unknowingly. We then pass judgment, which is how we decide how we're going to react based on what's in our computer of possible responses, which includes everything we've ever seen anybody do in a movie or in real life plus whatever we've dreamed up ourselves. And then that's how it plays out.

To be a master co-creator, you kind of get rid of all these judgements and go into every moment asking, “Who do I want to be? What do I want to experience?”

When you're in the grocery store and this person confronts you, who do you want to be? Maybe you want to be Scrooge McDuck and throw money at them. Maybe you want to yell at them. Maybe you want to be James Stewart in some gentle movie. Maybe you wanted to be John Wayne and call him out. Who do we want to be in this moment? What personification? That is determined by what we want to experience, and sometimes a challenge is very good. People choose to climb mountains or take on sports that are challenging, just for the thrill of it. We're not shying away from anything. We're not saying everybody needs to be lovey-dovey and just let everybody walk all over you.

No Wimps!

Lord Christ is always pictured as being loving and gentle, but he threw those guys out of the temple when they were doing that. Look at Moses and Mohammad and Gandhi; these are not wimpy people.


These are huge powerhouses who stood up for truth, what they believed in, what was right for their world at that time. They left lasting impression so that decades and generations and millenniums after they live, we still reference them as great beings, worthy of imitating and aspiring to be. So what we really want to be doing in every moment, which you talk about it in terms of joy which is absolutely perfect because the purpose of creation is joy. When we can say, in each moment, that we want to be experiencing joy we’re fulfilling our universal purpose, our cosmic purpose of bringing joy.


Let Old Behaviors Die


Michelle:

Funny, I just did a Facebook Live on this today, and the question was, “Who are you being?” I went on both sides. A couple of decades ago, I realized I was challenged with being quite angry, quite often. I said things that were very hurtful, and my husband would say, "Oh my God, please don't piss off Michelle. Don't go there. You're opening up Mount Vesuvius."

I realized, “Oh my God. I don't want to be known that way.” So I linked up a cost, a pain that resulted in, "This has got to stop. This behavior literally has to die within me."

My only strategy back then was, "Michelle, pause before you react. Walk away, or bite your tongue." I almost put holes in my tongue because so often I had to remind myself, "Bite your tongue. Get out of here." But I did stop, through the healing techniques and similar to what you were saying, "Lord God, help me to eliminate anything that's inside of me that's causing me to be so angry, so frustrated, so annoyed, and to stop speaking from that." I found the energies inside of me, and loved them, healed them and moved through that.

Link to Joy

It’s consciously deciding who you want to be, how you want to act.

Love Is The Answer

For me, that answer was love, and more love and, truth be told, unconditional love. I stepped into that, leaned into that more, so much so that in the moments I felt triggered and wanted to be old me, this new me, this higher self, if you will, emerged and literally said, "No. The dysfunction stops with me. I'm not going there." Old me wants to; I could feel that. New me? I've linked that joy, I've linked that greater purpose to being loved, and it's so trained now, it's so conditioned. If someone is in one of those lower energies, it cultivates me being more loving. I look at that as a cry for love, they're lacking so much love. I believe one of the greatest gifts you can give somebody is staying present in their emotional upset, when you can stay present and you say, "Let me just stand in love, let me radiate out love."

I'll give you one last example. I had someone yelling at me and it completely uncalled for. It was after I had given a talk, and I must've said something that she didn't agree with because she was ranting. This was probably 15, 20 years ago, and I remember thinking, "Michelle, don't defend yourself. Stand in love." I stood in love, and I was literally in my mind wrapping her in love, thinking, "I love you.” It took 15, 20 seconds, but all of a sudden she just stopped and said, "I'm really being unreasonable here, right?" I said, “I get it, it’s okay. Can I hug you?” She said yes. I remember that so well because she was hurting, and we’re called to be in those feel good energies. Isn't it so great if you're the one in that position of upset and someone can be that person for you?

We All Start Somewhere

David:

I think it's important that we emphasize to people who are reading or hearing this now that we, you and I, haven’t always been this way. We all started somewhere, and everyone has to just start where you are. From what you've told me, and what I know from my own past, is some things were very rapid and I could clear them quickly, and other things took long periods of time. Some things I'm still working on clearing, but the key is that I haven’t given up on working on them. I want to encourage people that wherever you are, you can start with intention. Who do you want to be? 



Intention


One of the wonderful things about today's technology is we can pick the best qualities of any number of people and combine them to be who we want to be. We can take this character from this movie, and this person from sports, and draw from their best traits. It’s important to remember as we do that that we're looking at who we want to be, not what we want to accomplish. In this day and age we can easily get overwhelmed when we think, "Oh, I could be an Olympic athlete, but also I need to be the top salesman, and I should be this, and I should be that, and I should be..." No. Who do we want to be? What do we want to experience? Most of us want to experience a life of health, love, financial abundance, spiritual connection, growth. But whether someone wants a loving family or relationship or to be a hermit in a cave in the mountains, whatever it is that we aspire to, wherever we are now, start with the intention.

Start with the intention, start asking for that, and you can move in that direction. However far we get is how far we get, and with every step of the way it gets better and better. You talked about how the old you would try to pull you back, and we all have that. I used the reference earlier about we go to the grocery store and want to eat well, but we look at the cookie aisle and want cookies. Here's the thing: as your body gets healthier, the cookies become less of a draw. The cookie, which doesn't make you feel good, just falls off the radar. There are entire aisles of grocery stores that I don't even look in anymore, because there's nothing there that I would want. But it’s not a loss.


What Drives Your Actions?


Michelle:


Absolutely. You lose what was driving the behavior, but it isn’t a loss. When love drives a behavior, we show up in a very different way than when anger drives a behavior. It’s very different when health is driving your behavior as opposed to soothing something. What's causing those unhealthy choices? When we’re healthy, we don't crave chocolate chips every day because it's not what the body is designed to live off of. If we're craving extra sugar, or alcohol, or drugs, or whatever it is that could be showing up, you got to look at what are you looking to fill, or cover up, or numb?


Love Makes Us Big


David:


As you mentioned, as we lean into love for ourselves and others it's the opposite of us getting small. We get bigger. As we grow in love, it's easier and more spontaneous to do right for ourselves, for others, and we get weak in wrong. It actually becomes harder to do the thing that causes imbalance. If we go back to talking about cookies, in moderation they’re not terrible for you and there's a joy in the flavor of sweet. But the point is that it stops being a draw until maybe there's an imbalance today that the cookie will help. And then you have the cookie, but then it's not that you’ve messed up or fallen off the horse the next day. It's like, "Yeah, I'm not going to do that again soon. That took care of it. I don't need it anymore."


Nature Is On Your Side


One of the wonderful things that the creator has created in us is that when we just start to move in the right way, starting with the intention and followed by a plan and an action, all of nature is on our side. Our body is on our side, our heart is on our side. It’s just a matter of clearing the misinformation; we can call it a virus, misinformation, imbalance, but as we clear those out, as we get more in alignment through these eight prakritis everything we do automatically supports everything else. We’re able to do that through the five senses, the mind, the intellect, and ego right to our own deepest, unfounded aspect of what we are.

We’ve seen these people in our lives. Some of them are great leaders in industry, others are great spiritual leaders who have a glow about them, or something seems right about them, and when we hear them, we just resonate. We know this is truth embodied, this is truth speaking, and it encourages us to aspire for that. Wherever we are today, however we think about ourselves, we are all each of us, are a child of the divine, or child of God, and that divine parent is our biggest well-wisher regardless of what our natural parents are like.

She Got It!
 I’m so proud of my mother, who passed away a couple of years ago. I was talking to her, maybe seven or eight years before she passed away, and I remember looking at her thinking, "It's going to take her about 50 lifetimes more to get to a particular level." But she got it right, and she did it in the next seven years. She just rocketed, and I was stunned. She had three amazing children on her side, and the divine, and everything, but she transformed.

The Danger of MisInformation

When we were young, she had PMS in the age where there were no female gynecologists, and men just said, "No, it's all in your mind." She was literally on the verge of murder or suicide several days every month. As kids, we didn't know anything about periods or anything like that, so all I thought was, “When I come home today, is my mother going to try to kill me or not?” I don't want to go into some of the details, but it was really, really, really deep trauma from the uncontrollable anger, resentment, rage, pain. It was because she lived in a world that didn't recognize that the pain she had was real. No wonder she went to psychiatrist for 40 years, because they lied to her. It was misinformation, lack of information. Now, that's just a couple of supplements. You take a couple supplements that are natural, add some things to your diet, eat more yams, get more estrogen. There are very simple things to do, and the first thing is to acknowledge what is going on.


Learned Behaviors Can Be Unlearned


That’s how I learned to behave: when you're upset, you max out. You pull out the cannons and the nuclear missiles from the word go. I really want people to understand that wherever you're starting from, you're the co-creator. Now, who do you want to be? Regardless of the past or present circumstances, there is nothing so overwhelming in your life that you can't overcome it if you choose to make a commitment to it.


Telling Yourself Stories


Michelle:


Yes, definitely. I don't know about you, but man, I used to run stories in my head, especially when I was driving. I would be yelling to nobody, just going off about stuff. I had to realize I was not living in this present moment because I was living in the story. This is why people don't sleep well, because they've trained their brain to either be in the future projecting what they don't want, or they're rehashing the past.


An Exercise in Presence


Here’s the technique that really helped me, and it's gorgeous to first start outside. You can do it anywhere, but it's beautiful if you can go outside and be a little bit more in nature because it helps to stop some of these stories that you've conditioned your brain to run away with to stop and deliberately say, "I'm going to look and see everything that I can see." Notice the tree, maybe go close to it and notice the bark, at the different veins; look at a leaf and notice the details.

When you just look deeply into something, it starts helping you to get present. Cycle through that sense for at least a minute, and when that's all you're doing, a minute can feel like a long time. Next, deliberately change that to a different sense, touch or feeling. Feel the bark of the tree, close your eyes, and feel the ridges, bumps, all the different textures. Then switch over to hearing, where you close your eyes and listen, and maybe now you're hearing the wind, or cars driving by in the background, or little kids playing in a park next door, or birds flying overhead. Here’s the point: Once you are fully focused on that present moment, you can then taste the air. Taste and smell are secondary. What you can see, hear, and feel are primary, and when you allow yourself to circle through these senses you can go deeply into the present moment and it quiets those stories. You want to train yourself to do that.


The Flash


I read the biography of John D. Rockefeller many, many years ago, and he would use this same technique. He called them Rockefeller moments, where he would just drop into the present so fully, so completely, and sense everything that he could. And then he would take it to this other level; if there was a problem in the plant, or with the company, he would just literally put on a whiteboard and say something like, "Okay, solution. We’re not going to keep seeing the problem, and analyzing it and what happened in the past, what might happen in the future," That's where people get really hooked. Rockefeller trained himself to drop into the present moment and open up to everything, everything that was available to him, and then somehow, some way, something would present itself. He would get that “aha” moment, he called it a flash.


Solutions Show Up Just As Easily As Problems


He would get a way beyond this current circumstance, because the second a problem shows up, so does the solution. I want people to get this because what blocks the solution is we get so hooked into the problem. We talk about the problem, we complain about the problem, we ask why did this problem happen? When all we see is the problem, we don't open up our awareness to the solution.

Some people will tell you, "Oh my God, my mind has a mind of its own." Have you ever heard that expression? They think somehow it's completely out of their control, but it's not. That’s why this technique works; using your senses, and then directing them to, "What is the solution?" There's always a solution. If you know, from universal truth, that when a problem shows up the solution does too, and you know to look for it and listened for it and you've trained yourself on how to stay present, it will totally show up.


Second Opinions


David:


That's a great technique, I want to carry it a little bit further. I want to point out that some people don't notice what they're doing, they can ask their friends, "Do I do this often?" Some people constantly think, "Oh, I should've done this. Oh, what if I had done that?" What time are they living in? Past, present, or future? Would have, should have, could have are all about past, and the reason that we do that is, somewhere in us we believe that thinking about this now can change the past. If you find you're in the past, the technique to get in the present can really help nail it. And the more you do it, the better.


Worrying Is Not Being Present


If you're always worried, you're in the future, which means, again, it's not the present time. Along with the exercise of going out, here's something easy that everybody can do all the time: taste your food when you eat it. Most of us sit down in front of the TV, we're eating while we're driving, watching a game, talking to a friend. If we just look at the food, there's your sense of sight. If we just listen as we crunch, we’re hearing. If we pay attention to the textures, we’re feeling. This is something we can all do regularly and easily since we all eat one, two, three, five, 10 times a day. Allow yourself to just think about the bite that you're chewing and you’ll notice that it'll slow you down and allow you to be more in the present.


As you said, in the present, it's very easy to see this idea that with a “problem”, which is still only our judgment about it, has a counterpart. And people love challenges; if life was going to be the same thing day after day, we’d be bored. My son used to call up and complain, and say, "I'm bored." I'd say, "Enjoy it, because it doesn't happen much when you're an adult. Get it while you can. I would love an afternoon to be bored. The days where I could lay in the field and just watch the clouds for hours are long gone." Those will come back when I want them to, but in the meantime, we're doing things.


So we want to notice that, "Am I somebody who's not in the present time?" Going out in the woods, and going out into nature, or to the park, or to a stream, is absolutely staggering and incredibly powerful. I've done it, and I know what it's like to go outside and look at some leaves, look at a flower. It's fabulous. Watch dust stream where you are right now. Just watch it go by. It's amazing, and it does help you be in the present.

Where the Problem Is, The Solution Is Also

In Ayurveda, which is the Vedic tradition of a healing and health, it's said that wherever a specific disease shows up, the solution is right there too. If a virus shows up, there's a plant or something right in the same area that will counter it and cure it. So this idea that you're presenting, that when a challenge comes up, it really is an opportunity more than a problem. It’s the opportunity for what we want, to be a bigger version of ourself, be a version that is better, more. "Who do I want to be? What do I want to experience?" The aha that you talked about. It's here. It's right here in this solution. All I need to do is pull back, get out of the judgment, get out of the mental noise, get out of the mind, and pull back far enough that I can see what the answer is.


Eureka!


David:

You know the phrase "Eureka", do you know where it comes from?



Michelle: I don't, no.



David: I think it's Pythagoras, but it could be somebody else; it was one of the famous Greek mathematicians. The king had a crown, and he wanted to know how much gold was in the crown. But it had all these weird shapes and holes and designs, so he gave it to this mathematician who could figure out volume. The guy was going nuts because there were so many intricacies, and then he said, "I need a break." So he went to take a bath, and when he got in the tub, water splashed over the side of the tub, and it suddenly hit him, in that relaxed state, "All I have to do is get a thing of water, weigh it, drop in the thing, weigh the water that overflows, and that's how much gold there is." When that happened, he screamed, "Eureka!" and ran out into the street, and back then, nudity, running in the street, was not so unusual, so apparently it wasn't that big a deal. 


Go About Your Business


Many people have said that the solution comes in that moment where they're just stepping off the bus, or they're just going to sleep, or they're just coming out of a meditative state, or in the middle of the night; the answer comes in that relaxed state. All that takes, is that ability to see the situation up close, and then widen the angle, fall back a little bit, and let whatever it is, the cosmic computer as it were, show us the answer. The answer is always, always there with the challenge.



Rewording the “Problem”

Michelle:

It’s happened so much in my life that I don't even use the word problem or challenge at this point. It's here to bless me, I’m expecting this to be something that's really good. It can have a positive outcome; it's growing me, expanding me, it's having me look at it from that different viewpoint, that different angle.

Embrace To Erase

I wear all my little bands, my little reminders, but one of them says, "Trust God without resistance.” I have a phrase I love that whatever you embrace, you erase. When you welcome it, embrace it, love it like you would love somebody that you haven't seen in a while, the problem ceases to exist. It's here for your benefit. It's here to heal something, expand you, make you better, bring you to meet a new person. It's all here for your good, and it's a beautiful way to live life.


It’s Your Situation, Your Choice


David:


It is, and it's all about realizing that this, whatever it may be, is what's being presented. No judgment “Is this good or bad?”. It’s saying, “What do I want to do with it? Who do I want to be? What do I want to experience?” We either enjoy or don't mind. We can ask, “How can I use it to add joy to my life?” or we don’t have to respond to it at all. I may choose to, but I never have to, like a commercial on TV. You don't have to respond to it at all, it doesn't warrant anything. Whether you want to buy the product or ignore it is up to you, what you want to do with that situation.


Love Might Be the Solution


I love what you said about embracing those moments with love. I've had experiences in my life where I have been very upset with someone, or they feel upset with me. I remember talking to a friend of mine and because of the way I grew up, trying to figure out all the ways to get back at him or show him he messed with the wrong guy. Suddenly, I thought, "I should just give that person a gift. I should just give them something out of love, out of appreciation for presenting this opportunity to grow to me.” The person I was telling this story to said, "Yeah, you can do that. The rest of us, we're not at that stage." But you could be.


What To Do With THAT Person


I lived in Iowa for 20 years, because there was a big thing going on with group meditations with some advanced programs that decrease crime, accidents, deaths while the economy increases and other good things. They have been scientifically validated in 30, 40 publications. We were involved in this for about 20 years and we all meditated in golden domes. There were separate domes for men and women, but they were all beautiful structures, geodesic domes with beautiful woodwork inside. They had the beams in the ceiling, they were gorgeous. The outside was painted gold, there were skylights in the top and windows all around.

It was wonderful, but there was not enough room for everybody in men's dome. We all sat cross-legged and you had to stagger, because otherwise your knees would overlap. It was really tight and really close, and one day in particular I got lucky and found a spot to sit I really liked; the stage was just right and perfect rays of sun were streaming from the skylight. So I stayed in that spot to meditate morning and afternoon for months. One day this guy came and sat down, right next to me, very close because it was so crowded. He had a very uncomfortable energy about him. Rajasic, very rough; so rough that more than once I had literally crossed a four lane road to walk on the sidewalk on the other side of the road just to avoid walking by him. I just didn't want to deal with this guy, I didn't like his energy, since I’m very empathic I pick up this kind of stuff. He sat right down next to me, knee to knee, overlapping. I flipped out, I was thinking, "Holy Maloley, how am I going to do this?"

Talk about being in the wrong space/time. My body was here and I was like two feet to the other side just trying to be away from him for the whole meditation thing. I spent the first two or three days trying to run away from it, trying to find another place that I could sit. There wasn’t any, it was too crowded; that's why he sat where he did. There was nothing else I could do, so I started thinking, “I need to fix this. I need to find some way to appreciate him.”

I started talking to him and found that he moved his family and his kids from wherever they were, I think there were in Michigan, to be part of this program to help world peace. Whatever else is going on, he's got something noble inside him. I talked to him a little bit more here and there, the coat room coming in and out. Just chatting, "What are you doing? How's work?" Nothing major, but I came to learn that everything that he could be doing to make his life better, he was. He was taking courses, doing the healing work. Everything that he could be doing, he was doing. He had definitely made financial sacrifice to move his family down here, and they were living in an okay place, and honestly, he was just like most of us.

Months are going by, and I'm finding more and more things to like about him. One morning we're sitting there in meditation, and it's the exact opposite of what it was the first time; instead of pulling away, I sat during this entire meditation, spontaneously pouring unbounded love and appreciation on the guy. Just pouring love on him. After that meditation, he got up and moved away and I never saw him again in that dome for the rest of the year. I saw him in town a few times, but so much love and then the situation just changed. So in the end I didn’t have to do anything, he just moved away.


You Don’t Need Details to Have Closure


Michelle:


I've seen that so many times. The moment that we stop resisting it, it can release out of our lives. It's literally the resistance that puts the hooks in it, keeps it locked on. When we let go, it's free to go.


David:


We use this in the healing work that I do because people always say to me, "Well, what is it you're clearing?" And I say, "It's just something from the past. Don't worry about it." My sweetie says, "No, people want to know all the details." And I say, "No, because if we tell you, then you have a concrete image and it's so much harder to clear that detailed image." It’s much easier if we just allow it to be a flow, an abstract, "Oh, it's just some energy that doesn't serve you anymore. Let's just clear it.”

You Don’t Need To Know

We don't need to know, and this is one of the beautiful things. We don't need to remember whatever caused the trauma. We don't need to remember whatever caused the stress. We don't need to remember who taught us this behavior that we feel is no longer who we want to be. All we have to do is let it go.

You touched on something before that I really want to bring out, and that is we don't always have to solve the problem. We don't always have to figure it out. Sometimes know what you want and get it and skip the middle guy.


Supercharge Your Attention On Where You’re Going

Michelle:


It's exactly that. When you can literally take your focus off of the problem, the challenge, the health crisis, the whatever it is that you have going on, the financial issue. People want to get in there and fix it, but they put their attention on that when literally, all you’ve got to do is turn away and energize. I like to use the word supercharge. What it is that you want to create, and you put all your attention on where you're going and what you want to create and that allows you to release all this crazy energy that doesn’t serve you. There's the oldest expression in the book, it says where your attention goes, energy flows. People don't do that, they miss it thinking, "No, I got to fix this."


Remember Your Future

That's happened. That's done. What do you want it to look like? Let's put the attention there, step into that. It doesn't matter what's caused that. It doesn't matter why this is in your life. It's done. It's happened. It's over. We've got to shift you, energize. I really like to use this phrase of remembering your future, because that faith is how we started, by stepping into where you're going. It’s actually been proven in almost anything.

Look Where You’re Going

I remember many years ago, about 15 years ago or so, one of those fun, Daredevil devil types of trends when a bunch of us got together to go drive race cars on a track and drive 120, 140 miles an hour. It was fun and thrilling and scary, all at the same time. I remember sitting with the professional and you're strapped in the cage of the car, wearing helmets, and he said, "If you go into a spin, the most important thing to remember is you put your attention on the track." You look exactly at the track because people will go into a spin and then they'll look at the wall. Don't want to hit the wall, don't want to hit the wall, don't want to hit the ball. And what happens? They hit the wall. Where you look is where you steer. He said, “Immediately you look at the track. You look at where you're going." There was even a certain line that I was to put my attention on; I remember that because when you're driving that fast, if you're looking all around, you can create a lot of problems. There was a lot of training on where to look, and I was amazed at how well I could do and how fast I could go, and then started to feel the confidence of doing it. That’s exactly what we're talking about. Where are you putting your attention? If you're all over the place, or you're scattered, or you're looking at a problem or you're looking in the past, you're not going to come out of this well. You got to energize and focus on where you want to go.

Don’t Fight The Darkness, Bring In the Light

David:


We look at the same thing, which is don't fight the problem. We believe in light switch technologies. Don't fight the darkness, just bring the light. We use the expression, "That which you give your attention to grows in your life." Which is the same thing that you're talking about, about attention.

If we put the attention on the problem, we get to enjoy the problem more. If we're enjoying the problem, great. If we're not enjoying it, let's do the other thing. We use the bullfighter's analogy; I'm not necessarily big on bullfighting, but the bull is charging and the Matador, the bullfighter, steps to one side and he waves his cape, and the bull goes charging by.

Do Not Engage

He doesn't engage, he doesn't do anything with the bull. The bull goes charging by and the Matador gets a standing ovation. The bull could go charging by and go back to his stall or back to his field and the whole thing could be over. The guy did not engage in it. You get what you wanted. Don't look at the problem. Look at what you want to experience, what you want to create in your life regardless of the situation. I want to reiterate wherever you are now in your life, for those people who are reading or listening to this, you can become who you want to be because if you have it within you to have that goal, the answer is there. There are just some things that need to be clear, shifted. The exciting thing is that as you reach that goal, you start seeing more and more that there can be bliss and joy and fulfillment; love and prosperity and health. It can just keep getting so much better than we imagine.

You Can Have What You Want

When we look at this, we look at it not for people individually. My brother-in-law was at a restaurant one time and there was a couple there with their child who was getting into something. The father turned to the child and said something like, "No, you can't have that. What would it be like if everybody got what they wanted?" My brother-in-law said to himself, "I thought that was the goal."

Everyone Can Get What They Want

He’s right: Let's get everybody to the place where they have what they want because when everybody has what they want, everybody is content and everybody is happy. There is more than enough to go around, I don't need yours. Happiness is not limited edition. The trees in the forest don't fight with each other, they just grow. All these different beings that have life coexist, they don’t worry about what they don’t have. We allow that we're all here, and if we're all in alignment with body, mind, soul, and heart doing what we're doing, we will only add to a beautiful world of fulfillment and joy. It can be stress-free, no struggles, no wars, no catastrophic events. Or maybe 95% will make sure that it will be amazing. And that's what we want. We want everybody to have what they want.



Michelle:


Absolutely. There will be people reading or listening to this who think, "Listen, I was definitely raised in sacrifice and guilt energies, “don't make it all about you” type-of-stuff." 

David:
Or the parents/ teachers challenging you, “Who do you think you are?”

Michelle:
Yes, “Who do you think you are?” came up a lot. The first couple of decades of my life that was a real issue. "Oh, you don't take up too much space on the planet." If people bumped into me, I was the person who said, "Oh my God, I'm so sorry.”

David:


Yeah, “Let me get out of your way. Let me hold the door for you. Can I carry your bag?”

Michelle:

Yes, all of that, door mat right here.

David:

Yeah, yeah. Same thing.

It Took Many Years

Michelle:


It really took years of meditation and being around mentors who had more light than I did. Having this, "You were not put on this planet to suffer” mindset was that misinformation you mentioned. I remember thinking, "Really? The mission isn't suffering?" When you look at Jesus Christ himself, oh my God, He suffered for us. He died for us. But we tend to get that message so wrong. Even if we talk about the life of Buddha, and how he attempted to become enlightened through suffering. He became this emaciated half dead person until he realized it's not about suffering, it's not about sacrifice. He went on to thrive through love and abundance.

We Are Not Here To Suffer

For me personally, it took years to heal that with multiple mentors and meditation and spiritual paths that I went on. I had created a lot of abundance in my life and was really starting to play with millions to be honest. We had a business deal that went South, and not only did we not make millions, we went $858,000 in debt. I thought we were going to turn it around pretty quickly, but we had months and months when we were really struggling to buy food let alone pay bills. But there was something inside me that said, "I am not to suffer. This is not going to last. This is not who I am. God, this was not your plan for my life. There's a blessing in this. There's a purpose to this, but it's not my life." It was so foreign at that point because I had experienced the joy, the happiness, the abundance, the peace. I realized I am not my best when I'm struggling, and that was that. I remember years later sharing my story on stage and I said, "I was not put on this plane to suffer." Later someone said to me, "I thought we were." I want to emphasize, it's not about suffering. It was that belief that this is going to be temporary that allowed me to lock onto using faith. That, see my future, see that I was going to not only pay off this debt, but to have more than enough and the money to do what I wanted to do when I want to do it.

Which Led To Millions


And literally go on to play with millions. And I got so crystal clear on that, from that moment where I really locked onto it, it was only about four and a half months that we wound up literally paying off this debt and going on to make literally over $400,000 that following year. And more beyond that. I want to communicate to everyone. You're not put on this planet to suffer. And if you accept that as a standard, you may be. Right? David, you said it earlier that we've got to raise our standards to what is acceptable and I'm here to again, come back to... If it doesn't feel good, you got to look at that as something to improve, to upgrade. If it doesn't light you up, as I like to phrase it. We got to start shifting your life in what you're accepting and believing your life can be about because you're selling yourself short.

You’re Meant to Live a Beautiful Life

It's meant to be a beautiful life. It's meant to be a life where you are lit up, you were living in love and truth be told, we can all be limitless. And if that sounds like whoa, a little crazy, a little far out there, I get it. Because when I first heard this 20 some odd years ago, me too. Me too. But here's what I can tell you. There's just this little part of my brain, that little part of my soul maybe that said, "Oh, wait a minute, I would like that." Right? and if there's just that little part of you that's just kind of popping up going, "I'm liking what these two are talking about. I'm liking their mindset more than my mindset."

A Little Spark

Pressing more to this because it's here for you. Right? And sometimes that's what happens. It a little spark inside of you that gets ignited and now we got to grow that spark. We've got to fan the flame, right? We got to take that little spark and we've got to make it like a little bonfire. And that little bonfire grows into a big bonfire and that big bonfire grows into a raging bonfire that the world can't put out any longer. Yeah. And you don't get crushed by the world. So yeah, I just want to inspire. Right? That, come on, let's wake up this part of you that's ready to hear this message.

David:

Yes. Exactly. Just that thing you said, just a little bit that said, "Okay, I don't believe that, but what if it's possible?

Michelle:

What if it's possible?

David:


Whatever it is within you that gets excited about what Michelle and I are talking about. Anything about it that no matter how far away it sounds to you, it's not as far as you think. And just what Michelle said?

Michelle:

Cultivate.

David:

Cultivate that fire, cultivate that and look into things and we'll be giving more clearing techniques and tools as we go along.

What If It All Works Out Perfectly

Michelle:

Yeah, I just want to say this one last thing because you know, you just said “what if?”. People play a “what if” game so often, but I call it the “what if? down”. Meaning, what if it doesn't work out? What if this person doesn't treat me well? What if this... And it's all this kind of like negative. If you're going to play a “what if?” game, please play the “what if? up” game. Meaning, what if this is the beginning of something great? What if this turns out better than I could have ever dreamed possible? What if, right? Today I'm willing to take my work to the next level. If you're going to play a “what if?” game, which is just completely pulling junk out of the air, right? For most people, what happened? You're creating worst case scenarios. Please play a “what if? up” game. Just want to encourage that.

David:


That's perfect. That's a perfect way. Yes, completely. What if you get $1 million today? What if you meet your soulmate? What if you meet? What if everything goes right today?

Michelle:


Yes. What if you become and step into more of the person that you want to be? What if you decide that you're going to have a great day and you do? Right? What if you start looking for a miracle and you find one, right? There's so many ways to set up a “what if?” to feel good. I call it the “what if? up” game.

David:

It's perfect. It's perfect.

End of Session 1

That was a lot of share and I believe, oh my God, we could raise the vibration of anyone who is listening to that because there was so much greatness in there. I don't know about if we stayed on topic for one thing though.

How We Got Here
Because we only need to start with an idea. And then wherever we go from there is where we go and I'm completely trusting that what's coming from both of us is what's going to be needed for those people who listen. And it's very spontaneous and engaging and sometimes that works better than a logical flow.

What Are Your Takeaways?

Michelle:

Yes. And you know what would be interesting, and this was just a thought is you know, often I'll run a group call and then as I'm wrapping up I'll be, "Okay, what were the takeaways here for you?" Right? It would be interesting to have, do you know several people listen to this and then, if you will, summarize takeaways that they heard. Right?

We’re Not Just Rambling

David:

Oh, I think it was great. I'm very excited about it and I keep trying to keep my intellect out of it. When we start going off on something, I just say, "Let it go. Let it go this way. Just let it go and don't worry about it." I'm very fascinated by it because, I think it's a better way of writing than organizing the outline because I think sometimes the logical way of presenting it is not what people need anymore. Often people write a book and they said that in a lot of the self help books, people only read a couple chapters, but it's because it's not all integrated and people learn in a more integrative way. In Finland now, they don't have a standard curriculum.

They just let the kids do whatever they want to do. And they'd come out tops in all of... They're the number one country in the world for education. Because when kids go in and play in the woods, and they go, "What's this?" They tell him. And then, "Oh, and what else and what else?" It just evolves like that. I like that about what we're doing. We start with belief and faith, and then we cover all of these different things and each of these different things that we cover, I think we're going to come around to more. Especially love.

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